Also, there are more women than men. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife. I have to stay with my parents. , Jazakumullah Khairan, may Allah strenghten you and give you more wisdom. failure after only a few months, because they are based on a weak He never defends you but always defends the person that u have a problem with? There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. i am also a muslim girl..we had physical relationship on one day.but still i am virgin.he said before that we can marry if our parents allows.but now he dont want to marry me as his parents dont allow him to do..but now they agree.but he is saying that let us go two ways..not to make the parents sad..,how can i marry other person without telling him and cheating. Asian women are used to this and don't see anything wrong with it. We must gave been in our friendly relationship stage about year and half when a coworker of his contacted me, asking me out. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. These doubts will persist and will be a cause of anxiety for If hes doing his best to take care of you. So.If the women is the bread winners, is the shoe on the other foot? In Western society it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. to Allaah for this great blessing and strive to preserve it and the family Here is an explanation of the Quranic verse below. Wow. But watching comments & after reading the article Id like to say that SEX is not only the thing keeping marriages prosper & happy life. Very good knowledge!! Ameen. He was a good person, good akhlaq and very pious. If you sincerely repent from your heart, then Allah SWT is Most Merciful and will wipe away your sins and transform them into good deeds. If your men want to marry let them and they will get their justice from Allah they clearly didnt love you in the first place. Expected for men who make a second marriage. He uttered the divorce words three times in one meeting, then I went back to my parents house. Others are willing to be open to it if the right conditions and harmony is fulfilled with their husband. Men are just not that good at showing emotion (unless were talking sports or politics). It is possible that your husband was pressured by his parents to marry. And any husband and wife who love each other wouldnt do things on Asalaamualaykum. Ofcourse not. Ive read this article & I feel this article is like imposing things on women. . I love my husband so deeply and wholeheartedly that i can never even imagine myself being attracted to another man. No he does not need to ask premssion pologamy is halal not haram. if your husband stops listening and refuses to help you understand what you clearly want to, but instead demands and demands to have what he alone needs and by any means necessary takes what he needs. I cannot imagine that all married men think about taking another woman. And if she isnt IN love with U it doesnt mean she cant be commited and faithful. How about us woman looking at other man at some point in our lifes?.. I cannot help but feel this Hadith always crops up which men love to use but there is no sentiment for men to be considerate. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husbands] absence what Allah would have them guard. Dear Wazeela, i dont know when you commented but I reply now in 2017 september. Here are the hadith that explain this, O youth, who among you who have baah then should he marry (Narrated by al-Bukhari), 9. Out of them, nadima was married for four years. There are, however sir, double standards- and I think thats part of the root of what most people here contradicting you are getting mad about. why most men and yourself (a women) would just agree, and men feel superior to not even ask, if because of superiority and ego. Seek safe counsel. The coworker response, he never told you? my response,tell me what?the coworker replies, he has been married for two yrs and has a child. I confronted him and he lied about having a wife and child. In every hadeeth there is meaning and insight to be gained. Get it together men. husband and has made the husband a covering for his wife. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. 2. to ask Allah of all that is good for you according to HIM. Marriage, Polygamy, Marital relationships. I would NEVER allow my husband to marry another woman. Lets face the reality, sisters, men are not perfect and they love sex so much than us. my dear kar, Muslim girl, read the brothers comment carefully then make your comment. All of these are virtues and standards of character in Islam. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million more females in USA who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). Asalam o Alakum Women crave respect and most definitly deserve it, communicating with your wife is a form of respect. I completely agree. One day my brother told me that someone he knew is looking for a wife. There are many women in here that have gone out of the fold of islam due to their own personal opinions contrary to what Allah swt has decreed. legitimate marriage contract between you and your husband, so who can Kindly tell me what should I do and with what reference I can convince my parents. Btw if Muslim women want they can write a no-2nd marriage clause in their marriage contract during the nikah. its really really nicely you explained thanks for the post may ALLAH give you the reward. My husband married another girl without informing me. (i`m not pregnant) It could be that when you are there with him, he will get better, but you should be careful and tell you that you demand being treated with dignity. However, if you are afraid that you can not be fair (between wives if you have more than one wife) marry one wife or provide with the slave girl you have (Verse 4 : 3), 7. Some points made in this article are good,but that does not justify being sexist!All men think about having another wife? could be in the good situation in which you are, but you do not appreciate I mean we are woman, best to get over it. Dear questioner! Your husband needs to know that youre going to be by his side if: You should be loyal to your husband before everything else except Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). (Verse 4: 129), 4. He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. my husband love me lot of. Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. He have hurt so much and I alway sad all I think what do I do wrong he cheat on me so much. How many muslim men have actually married more than 1 wife around you? The mind is what you will live with for fifty years. It doesnt apply to all brothers but these are the things in their mind that most probably they wont tell you about it (seeing the debate going on above, there is good ground why they choose not to tell us) cheers, Im much satisfied by this article it solved my biggest problemjazakallahu khaira, JazakAllahu khairan were happy to know this. Like having a strong financial condition and have the ability to do justice with both wives if he cant then he shouldnt go for second marriage. We have been married for 18 years. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. Great article, although I think number 4 needs to go. This is an old post, I am not sure what is your situation now. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. 4. And if you read all the way through surat al-nisa youll come to the part where God basically says You will not be able to treat them(women) equally. else who is also married or not married? honestly if he just cant, he cant. Can I? No one deserves to be spoken to like that. Wife must keep her husband attracted to her, and must maintain this attraction, and must support her husband, so that his burdens are lessened, and the natural pull on men towards other women is reduced/balanced. 2.If this person really loves Polygamy was a social welfare for them. Yes, it is a sin for muslim man or muslim woman to have an extra-marital affair or a pre-marital affair, be it with a muslim or non-muslim. In this case, the divorced wife does not need to marry the second husband and get a divorce from him. But due to their respect in society they want me to go back. what would be the fate of your children who are a trust about which Allaah i am too selfish when is comes to my husband. Bukhari and Muslim. walan ta3delo, so as it says at the beginning of surat al-nisa , One wife is Better if you cannot treat them equally. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) stated that if a man were to leave his home and see something of desire, he should go back to his wife and satiate it. My life was Malcolm X and Maya Angelou, X-Men and Spider-Man; summers were spent at my nani's house in Karachi, and winters trudging through Yorkshire snow. Get to know the conditions required for it to be healthy and practiced properly. Oh Dear how I understand you, my ex boyfriend, we were together for 5 years and hes Muslim. He Loves You, Even If He Doesnt Always Show It remember allah never brings more to a person they can cope with or carry. Its obvious this was written either by a man or a brainwashed woman with no self respect or dignity. For me, my husband wanting another wife would make me feel a failure and that no matter how hard i tried to be the best wife, i would feel that im just not good enough because my husband looked elsewhere. Although, a male, I would say about the 3rd point that it much more depends on the condition: 1) Now if a man is having sex with his wife for 3 consecutive nights and if the wife does not want it on the 4th night then I dont think she will be cursed for it. It seems shes expecting some fatwa & if she is then tough luck, knocking the wrong door. For crying out loud! Its only allowed on some cases where its really needed. You should note that it is not permissible for a woman to so my advice is follow the advice above and make sure your husband has everything he could ever want from you and so he won;t even look at another woman. take time to let him know he exists in your your own busy self assertive, high achieving life of yours; dear muslim sisters. O ye who believe! Saying I love you is not enough ;). What do you do when 13 years later you find yourself in the same position All because of the same women ??? I would rather say dont even feel. It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. This is a sign of their lack of reason and religious We do not live in fairy tales, our husbands are not prince charming, their real men with real needs, desires, and yes even emotions just like us. Because you are right not every man is the same and no one should follow this article (its based on the authors experiences) only act as the person you married acts towards you and follow Allah he whos judges all. Men are always looking 4 sex..thats y they go to other women.so provide him a good sex.he will never ever go to any other girls, You should consult a muslim imam.in islam its is forbidden to do sex without marriage. and one who does an atom weight of good will see it. Because deep down, we really just want to make you happy. i`m sleeping alone. You should not even be looking at other woman mate! Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. Pathetic. I have a problem maybe you can help.hubby n I have been married since 4years.we were really happy. When you said you will send him back home ALLAH know everything but we dont. As messed up as that sounds why didnt you leave him in the 1st year? Sure, I can fake respect. Unwanted sex! Islam Q&A, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in All men are different and do expect different things, same goes for women, marriage is about communicating, you are not just two people that meet in day to have sex and thats it, where is the communication, find out what YOUR husband wants and not what this idiot wants. i have done all types of treatment but no result. Be careful sisters. India has more male population than female due to female foeticide and infanticide. We are true Sunnah Muslims Hamdullah. 660. I am extremely hurt, i dont know how to deal with his i want to divorce for hi happiness as he made me feel im extremely bad wife. Because men are programmed to think about other women and women should be calm and prepare a sandwich for those who preach like this. 4.What guarantee do you have that Just because man is ALLOWED to take a second wife, doesnt mean he should. Just because your husband doesnt treat you in the way (you think) the Prophet (pbuh) treated his wives, doesnt mean your husband doesnt love you. 2. I guess it is a matter of I make the money, so I make the roles. I am all for independent women. Good question. Stop being selfish. May Allah give you peace in heart and in this life and in the life hereafter. (this is all the Islamic opinion and Im simpy stating it from all schools of thought in Islam). when he want love with me, it is at day time at other place. But before we can really comment about marriage, marry one first, then youll know what is unknown to you before tying the knot. Just so you know amongst those good humans are the good MUSLIMS. You give her (your wife) to eat if you eat and give her clothes if you dress. It is still adultry. But if they want it to be real, they need to think about what the wife REALLY wants and needs, instead of whats easier for them. al-Jaami al-Sagheer, no. you, why is he striving to wreck your home and destroy your family? (960 A.D to 1030 A.D) issued an edict against it. ISLAM QURIAN is d manual 2 better and peaceful live . God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males. Its ridiculous. Why? Im sorry but I will have to disagree. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. , Just wanted to add, dont be afraid to compliment him. So many women (same goes for men) just take for granted that their husband knows how she feels for him and dont ever say anything. That is, after such a divorce, the husband will separate the relationship with the wife. Second wife! Encourage him to make Salaah at the Masjid. there are many ways a man can help and support other womans without having to marry them and having any relationships. Ep 32 Diff 11 Jan 23, Inde, 2022, 29 min. Has there been negative history? 2) It clearly says if the man sleeps angry, then she will be cursed. Tip Of The Week Safeguard Your Home From Shaytaan. women are not respect giving machines. If a man refuses to consider his wifes sexual pleasure, along with being a jerk, he will have to answer to Allah for his neglect The consistent and constant advices to women to be patient when husbands are complete failures is ridiculous and getting really tired in 2016. Nice. I wanted to go out and enjoy my life like others do but my life became very dark n I started going into depression. My husband divorced me during menses 11 years ago. doing something that is haraam, so how can he pray istikhaarah and claim Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Salam. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life. You should choose for yourself a man who is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him)classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi. I am shocked by this backward/baseless thinking. This is the Islamic view though. AssalamuAlaykum Im happy,couze my husband big resfect me when it comes sex,if he want and idont like make sex w/ him,he just say ok fine but he is not angry 2 me..thans 4 the nice topics n adviceAllah huakbar.. hmmm youre happy; but is he really happy? You cant know this because no one knows whats in the mind of every man. There may be polygamy in order to spread Islam. Then he is not in true love with his first wife. Who wants to sleep with a man who makes you second to his mother and family, who lets himself go, puts financial burden on you, and what about men who hold hypocritical double standards thats totally unattractive too. If you want more advice on marriage watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI by Yasir Qadhi. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. For this reason, there are more deaths among males as compared to the females during paediatric age. Because of this my husband calls me disloyal yet if i dont confide and let my worries out i feel overwhelmed, anxious, miserable even to the extent of feeling ill. i would love nothing more than to see my husband off to work and welcome him home to a clean tidy house, a meal on the table and myself looking the way he likes me to look. (Sidetracked). Just think of whatever you did was because Allah aksed you to do this (includes all the respect/care you gave to your husband), and imagine that Allah will definitely be happy with you coz you did as He had asked. Theyre not loyal. tj. Any how he got chance for quarring with me. Their right to you is (obtaining) sustenance and clothing in a sensible way. Sex when he wants even if the woman doesnt?? Lol ur funny! Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. How she feels is less valuable than him getting off. What about 7 things your wife wont tell you? In Islam, marriage is a civil contract. God would not be ok with this garbage. we have to do so. then how can he accept to destroy the home of his Muslim brother and split So its incumbent on the husband to be kind to his wife, discuss the matter with her in a gentle and pleasant manner, and this should be coupled with spending whatever money may be necessary in order to gain her acceptance of the situation. One fills in what the other lacks. that He creates love and compassion between them, and helps each of them to take time to let him know he exists in your your own busy self assertive, high achieving life of yours; dear muslim sister. The point which most of the people ignorr is that sahaba and prophet Muhammad saw gone for multiple marriage after the age of 50. seriously good points you have mentioned here. Make a big deal about his muscles, how generous he was to help out with his friends hospital bills, how proud you are to have a husband that makes his salaah. Salaam that one thing man need just like food and drink. 5815. I appreciate your responses! Extracting your time from office hours and taking her on a long drive would surly affect her too. Whatever I used to ask my husband he always said no for it but he wanted me to say yes for whatever he ask for. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males. It would be difficult for my husband to provide for multiple wives, both financially and emotionally. 3) If she loves U she will have eyes for NO ONE ELSE. 30 January, 2022 Q I am a converted Muslim from the UK. But when a marital relationship becomes toxic, and it becomes impossible to lead a peaceful life, divorce may then be the only solution. It is far easier for man to get back in mood for sex than a women. well said KAY i totally agree with you. Hmmmm. Yea, and youd think thered be a bit more discussion in that direction around here! We have to accept and love the ways Allah has rolled it down for us . We have to open our hearts to Allah and be compassionate. This is not my version Islam. So do not do this. So really, #4 about him thinking of other women is not bad, that is his right. Seriously? I know men wont admit that they are at fault instead they would prove us women wrong. My husband thinks that as he left this lady, then his condition becomes worse. you enjoy the pleasure of living OK, he won't cheat because it will be a legitimate marriage instead of an affair, but isn't it still really bad? Again, we are only getting a reaction waves from what happened in the last 200 years of changes in the lifestyle of people and the westernising/ americanizing, feminism etc and some people are trying to live with both this Americanized lifestyle and to accept all the authentic teaching of Islam as much as she can.. And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. Please sisters read the facts from the Quran yes it tells us he can have more than one wife but only if he can do justice. Some things may be hard to swallow for us women, but Allah swt Created us this way, so rather empower yourself with this knowledge and understanding, than bemoan and question the way of things. Its simple. Thank you!!! Now they both can change that according to their mutual consent, but if there is a conflict, it is going to be judged according to the responsibilities divided by Allah(swt). Because then hell start feeling that you dont respect (theres that word again) the things he does do for you. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. She will ONLY be cursed if her husband is angry. -_- He wants me to marry him and be his 2nd wife. everyone mush read this article. In a religion banning intoxication, this is one of very few ways to feel drunk or high. Jazakallahukairan, am really insppired by this post. go back to the initial thesis statement ( make sure you know what the issue really was, read the answer again and if you still dont know, sit with your husband and make sure you both understand what the question and answer were talking about. @ sara thinking of you before your husband (will marry or married) you is Haraam? We are all human and built that way. 5. But not when normal conditions exist. If a woman refuses to have sex with her husband, maybe her husband should ask why she is doing this and actually listen to what she says. Chances are hell like it. This is the first time in the 20 years that I have known him where I have been at a loss for words. First of all,Id like to clarify few things before I get deep into this to comment. that is part of a mans nature, whether he is Muslim or not. 5.Do you expect that trust will I am again into depression and dont know what to do. Moreover, after praying istikhaarah the Muslim should resolve As it is an obligation for him to do this, then a similar punishment must apply inshaAllah. However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. I cant tell you that the same might apply to the husband if he refuses, but its his duty in Islam to satisfy his wife in intercourse and he cant just go to sleep without fulfilling that. You may want to read aboutRight Ways How to be Closer to Allah SWT. There sure is a lot of cherry picking about in the world in all sorts of areas of Islam, not just in relationships. No much hope for Islam if goes that way Wel then his only after one thing isnt he Maintenance for Woman under Muslim Marriage Law I am an educated older woman. The marriage of a woman during pregnancy is also mentioned in the compilation of Islamic law and the law is allowed by weighing all its merits and mudharatnya. I am a woman but I know men very good . If you only learn to use it properly. Finally, it may indicate that you are committed to the relationship between your husband and his sister-in-law. Im sure each wife will be happy with that. As his wife, you also need to contemplate if this is something you are willing to tolerate, adjust to, and understand. I think you need to learn more about Islam, and pls dont argue over ALLAHER command. You may want to read about50 Akhlaq of Prophet Muhammad SAW. well sis dont get married then. Second, it may indicate that you are committed to the feelings your sister-in-law has for you. Were not perfect. Men are using their own ways of thinking to have more than one wife but there will always be one wife he will like more or give something more to. It might be years later but I had to leave my reply. May Allah bless you. I may not have it word for word though. go on youtube and look for a video call things woman should know about man. sis i am so sorry that you are going through this : ( May Allah reward you for your strength and improve your situation ameen. Be lonely because of other women selfishness? From the subcontinent :p repression central and B. A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. There are some important rules that must be considered especially for husbands who want to do (married) again. The Law of Women Provides for Family and What is the Law of Marriage without Mahar 5 Benefits of Duha Prayer Muslim Should Aware, 5 Best Deeds in the Eyes of Allah Most Muslims can Apply, 5 Precious Benefits of Reciting Subhanallah You can Apply, 5 Good Deeds That Have the Same Reward as Hajj. World female population is more than male population In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. In Islam, of course, this is permissible if the wife approves her husband wishes. also i think you should know that. Rather, He commands that they dwell with each other in tranquility and be a garment for one another. and dont let someone walk over you. I was so happy because I met this man that I thought was honest, faithful, trustworthy, and sincere. If you feel something wrong then do some research on that topic and InshaALLAH you will obviously get your answer. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his companions, The article is sure a nice way of giving a heads up of how many men tend to think like. and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the Jazaakallahu khayran. We need to understand for some men it is difficult to control themselves. He is a man and capable of anything. If you insist on self respect from the beginning then it will be the core of your lone life together In Sha Allah. iv) To give protection to a widow or any other woman who requires it. refrained from establishing a haraam relationship even though there is a It is with this layout of rulings that it is hoped that man and woman will come to love one another, hence making the marriage peaceful, fulfilling, and enjoyable. It has to be earned. Bravo.Mashallah.this is the thoughts of a regular muslim guy. do that which causes harmony to grow in the family and ward off disputes and neglect of their children. The way I see it is, treat your wife how you expect to be treated back, treat your husband the way you expect him to treat you, men and women are equal, Im tired of these sick men that think they deserve everything when they dont give anything, has this guy ever thought about womens needs and wants?? Not fair! Women indeed isnt something sex slave,and if she denies to have then whats the big deal? continue to befall the believer, man or woman, concerning himself, his child If you man is not sexually satisfied by you and he is out for bread-winning, he may fall into something else, and it may eventually lead to be a greater disaster than Sex without feelings/Not wanting to. Second, third and fourth marriage is allowed by sharia. InshaAllah we all better ourselves and our relationships. There needs to be an article about what men can do for their wives bcz Im sick and tired of reading any more tripe as to how I can better serve a man. Why would a men thought of second woman if he would lower his gaze while roaming around in public places? so dont worry.lol. Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. 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