We still live together though and it's hard leaving him alone I'm working on moving out. It IS abuse. She gave me a bunch of exercises and strategies to use to prevent this from ever happening again. It is time to bail once and for all. That's too old to lose control like that. Because of my Dad's affair, my Mom fell into a deep depression and was an alcoholic (she has since recovered) and so I spent most of my time alone, I am an only child. He had been very hurt because Susan had not trusted him and had not even discussed things with him. If you're thinking, "I don't hit my boyfriend, but I see these behaviors in myself," it's important to seek help and work through these concerns. Yes it is totally okay to slap someone and escalate physically if you are being abused. I was able to get myself out of the episode after a couple of hours. Without it, there cannot be growth, and without growth, there cannot be a commitment to non-violence. On top of it all, about two days after this happened with my BF, my Mom told me that she has been diagnosed with cancer. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Those types of courses can teach a person how to deal with upsetting situations without resorting to violence. None, zip, zero. toughlove1993 My boyfriend kissed me goodbye (he said he was leaving early because he had work the next day, which was true.) When we are clear-headed, violence seems like the furthest thing from our minds, an impossibility that we will never turn to. He tends to call me names when we fight, and I've asked him to stop, because it really bothers me. You HIT him. He said he had immediately regretted hitting me and he'll never do it again. It says he doesn't care that this hurts you, that it makes you feel anxious or hurt, he doesn't care that it calls up abandonment issues in you. I regretted it the second I did it. You didn't use your words, you lashed out. We are a welcoming subreddit and support the rights of all genders. No situation of domestic violence is an excusable offense. You should feel like a sack of crap. He accepts responsibility for that situation. Yes I asked him to give me till the end of the year maximum and he is ok with that. Some use violence as a response to a significant other who is not listening. My boyfriend still loves me and wants to stay together. Of course it wasn't like I slapped him so hard (I know that doesn't matter). Then he started mocking me and laughing in my face and then I slapped him. Part of this commitment involves being more aware of emotions and their impact. I'm not an angry person. These are also key ingredients in abusers. Also, he might be afraid of what he might do if you hit him again. He thinks the violence was funny? Block him. You are not stronger than him. I don't feel well and really want to go home." Here are a few other signs that a person has caused or is causing abuse: None of these are okay. But they can also be our teacher. Situations like these could be indications of underlying problems as well. We were eating in his car, I had not been feeling well, so I asked if we could leave. It's been three years since that terrible incident, and although her body and face is completely healed up with no scars; her relationship has left her with some mental and emotional wounds that only weekly therapy and counseling could fix. Read More >, This has never happened in our family before. You're clearly working out a lot of issues, and it seems like you can't get past the infidelity. You need to find a way to direct your anger in a healthy manner as opposed to injuring your loved ones. Lets think about this one for a second okay? Now I feel like I need to walk away from this relationship even if he does come back. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back a little reverse psychology may be what you need to win your ex boyfriend back. Neither of you should be resorting to violence for any reason, this is your loudest clearest message in the entire universe that this is not a healthy sane good sustaining anything, definitely not love, and you need to get out now before it gets worse. That said, that's obviously not the case here. Him just acting like he didn't care and showing no emotion. She said the reason she reacted like this was she adored him and could not accept that he was frequenting another woman. I'm so conflicted. Started Monday at 08:56 AM, By I thought about how we began this journey of love together, and I noticed that I just can't ever stop loving you. Ok, you didn't even read. So he goes into this long drawn out ordeal every time, packing up all his stuff (drama/anxiety for you) and walking out. Sounds like an incredible toxic relationship. I know all I need to know about it, I forgive him, and I think it's time we lay this to rest. You're so annoying, shut up.". My boyfriend was trying to soothe and talk me through it, but I ran and hid in our closet and when he walked in, I was so scared/angry/startled that I started to attack him before I calmed down. No, I wish it was. If he contacts you, go to the police. "I hit my boyfriend" is a phrase that has been said more than a few times, often in regret, in stories that have gone ignored. I checked my phone a while later and my boyfriend had sent me a message saying that it wasn't okay for me to hit him like I did, and that he didn't want to see or talk to me and that I should go home to sleep instead of going to his place. I love him more than anything and I know he was just trying to help. He text me today that he would talk to me later tonight. Susan dispatched the letter Jimmy and decided not to bother him or have any contact with him at all for some time. I recently got into an argument with my boyfriend. Horrable neither person should touch the other in anger. Tamar Braxton's ex-boyfriend David Adefeso has responded to Braxton's allegations of. The man usually is stronger and can never. Anger management and therapy can help. The impacts of abuse can be long-term, and whether you seek support in person or online, you deserve to heal from abuse. Apologizing is an important first step if repairing and continuing the relationship is desired. In the meantime I'm trying not to get too down but I feel horrible and have no one to blame for my actions but myself. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. I feel like a horrible person. He made me angry and upset, and now hasn't spoken to me in two days, should I reach out? Side effects of abuse may include but aren't limited to physical injury, disability, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), a higher risk of depression, decreased self-esteem, houselessness, substance abuse, and anxiety. Why are you still trying to live there? Commit to improving in the future and stick to your word. Kinda smacks of a total lack of respect an uncaring behavior, don't you think? 1. , that it's a no-no. Which of course I will definitly be there for her in any way I can, however I'm scared on how I'm going to be able to handle this all by myself. And I should. The very thought of this terrified her. We are meeting with the oncologist and surgeon today and I know it's going to be a tough conversation. While "domestic violence" and "intimate partner violence" are terms that can be used interchangeably, the difference between the two is that domestic violence can happen between any two individuals who are living together. Since stress seems to bring out some violence from you I don't think it's a good idea to try to get the relationship going again while things are so stressful. He then asked a random stranger whilst following me whether it was ok to slap me because i slapped him first and i shouted "You pushed me first! Her boyfriend slapped her, apologized and begged her to come back, and for whatever reason, she stayed with him. MaisyMarch 6, 2011 in Abuse and Violence. Truth About Cell Phones In A Relationship. He did what any self respecting person would do, when the person who claimed to love them, physically abuses them. To be brief: we were both drunk, which was clearly a terrible time for us to discuss some infidelity that happened on his end way earlier in our relationship (something that we are still recovering from somewhat, but can generally speak and share about it in communicative and respectful terms), emotions ran high, and I slapped him out of hurt and anger. My Dad was having an affair during most of my childhood and was never home or when he was home, he wasn't around my Mom and I. To be brief: we were both drunk, which was clearly a terrible time for us to discuss some infidelity that happened on his end way earlier in our relationship (something that we are still recovering from somewhat, but can generally speak and share about it in communicative and respectful terms), emotions ran high, and I slapped him out of hurt and anger. Sigh. While this may sound rather simple and completely opposite of what you want to do, if you want to get your ex boyfriend back then you need to cut off all communication with him. Thanks for your answers, they really helped. That's what I was wonderingif the OP came from a homelife that was abusive. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. Again, this is not how someone who cares about you behaves. Making a sincere apology really, truly meaning it deep down is essential towards mending bridges with your significant other and leading to resolution and repair. Do not engage in any way, period. He made me angry and upset, and now hasn't spoken to me in two days, should I reach out? But Jimmy had decided he would not have her back. It may be painful and messy, but that will pass. Therapy Can Help - Get Matched With A Licensed Therapist Now. I've been together with my boyfriend for a little over a month (both 15) and im starting to think I am a lesbian. He hurts too. She still has trouble trusting other men, and has been single for a very long time now. To you, your reason of being dissed made it justifiable. We get to my house and I tell him I'm not leaving his car until he calms down and we talk about this. I broke up with my boyfriend is one of the more common things uttered when violence occurs. And, once it has, you'll find peace with yourself, and clarity on what to do. Well.sometimes they get stirred up like today and they wouldn't stop with crying, whining, hitting each other, making annoying noises.all this while I was trying to get their school supplies. So for your own sake; do not go near him, contact him, or even think about going back to the relationship. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding. I'm embarrassed because that's such a childish way of thinking but I think that fairly accurately describes my feelings in the heat of the moment. Has anyone here loved a man that was bad for you? I don't understand it. I can't say if the relationship can be fixed or not because I can only base my advice off of what my reaction in the situation would be. I just I could have gotten help sooner so this most recent "attack" had never happened. Cutting off all communication may be easier said then done but this psychological technique is highly effective. Escalation and reaction like that are only short term responses. Even if that's not the case, this is a non-workable situation. Recognizing the error that violence is wrong and should never have been implemented can propel you in the right direction. She suggested that Jimmy come with her as his friend. He's causing you hurt and anxiety and he does it anyway. They are not equal, they are better-than. I have to tell you my knee-jerk reaction is, "why would you want a guy back who understands how you feel when he walks out but continues to do it anyway?" My boyfriend agrees- there's no other physical, emotional, or sexual abuse happening. I honestly didn't think I carried residual anger or resentment about it- but obviously I have further reflecting to do. Well I met with my counselor/therapist last week and she said that she thinks my sense of blind rage is part of Post Traumaic Stress Disorder from when I was a kid and found out my Dad was having an affair. My 19 year old sister just broke up with her 24 year old TOXIC boyfriend, I just broke up with my boyfriend because he is broke, Lauren London debuts her snatched frame at You People premiere, Anika Noni Rose and Jason Dirdens Colorful Los Angeles Wedding, Video of Nelly acting strange on stage goes viral, Life president Kagame hires his son as a bodyguard. "My partner emasculates me by hitting me each time." Posts are moderated for respect, equanimity, grace, and relevance. The consent submitted will only be used for data processing originating from this website. however last evening I was triggered from something thats never triggered me before, and I had a very dramatic and serious flashback like I havent had in the past few months (I have been doing EMDR therapy). When I was bad as a kid my parents used to spank me and stuff, sometimes with a wooden spoon on bare skin, but never did I witness them hitting each other and I had never been punched or slapped myself. I feel horrible for what I did and how I made him feel- not that that excuses anything. OP, my two cents are as follows. This is how abusive relationships almost always start, sweep you off your feet kind of thing - the best relationship, the best boyfriend ever. P.S. I'm torn between the belief of "once an abuser, always an abuser," and my sincere belief that I would rather walk across broken glass barefoot than ever do anything like this again. I am happy to see that most of the commenters in this thread seem to see this the same way as well. Said that, I feel anyhow that his might have been a rash, knee-jerk reaction fueled by surprise and anger. Feelings aren't bad - they just need to be expressed. I'm 24, he's 28. I could see the disbelief on his eyes as he uttered: "Did you just slap me? Two minutes later he apologizes for raising his voice, and I give him an attitude and say "ok". The numbers certainly support the notion that women are abused on a more consistent basis. Old thread and OP has never returned. I hit my boyfriend for the first time about a year ago and we were engaged, long story short he ended up leaving me and about 9 months later he came back. Started Friday at 11:13 PM, Mel Robbins posted a blog entry in Youtube, September 23, 2022, Psych2Go posted a blog entry in Youtube, September 23, 2022, Tony Gaskins posted a blog entry in Youtube, September 23, 2022, Yahoo posted a blog entry in News, September 11, 2022, Newsweek posted a blog entry in News, September 11, 2022, The Coolest Part About Jealousy That You NEVER Realized, TikTok mom Jac Woodwell (@jacquelinewoodwell) shared the moving story of meeting her now-fianc on Tinder after the father of her child dumped her while she was pregnant. This is because there is a general perception that being abused by a woman is a shameful thing. I don't think I deserve it. This is such a mindfuck right now. Feeling dread at the thought of breaking up with my boyfriend. Keep your hands to yourself. You have matured and you are finally in control of yourself and your emotions. You must log in or register to reply here. The fact of the matter is that people make mistakes. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. Anne Marquet as a future MD, I've seen many bad relationships. This will definitely help you keep your mind off of him. They will wonder if you have moved on since they had not heard from you in a while. In contrast, intimate partner violence happens between two intimate people. My boyfriend of three years slapped me across the face a few nights ago. Really feel those feelings. It always happens so quickly and it's like I'm another person and before I know it, it's too late. Started Monday at 08:56 AM, By Relationship Advice Forum for Men and Women, Hosted by Mimi Tanner. He isn't mentally stable, and for your own safety; I would stay away from him. He's laughing about the violence? This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register. Susan now had her work cut out to get her ex back, particularly as she had dumped Jimmy so unceremoniously.. We have talked about it, he's aware of how it makes me feel but has continued to do it. You are right about there being something clearly wrong if this is something that still managed to get to me so many months later. Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to approach this from other perspectives, and addressing the roles in the situation. She talked about their long life they had had together and the good times that they had had. Because if you don't it WILL happen again. I tell him I don't think I did anything wrong, he is the one now who is really in the wrong, for flipping out, calling me names, etc. Ice queen I want this to stop, I want to change myself and maybe I need something drastic to do so. A good man should be enough for a woman and thats it. LSA we need to discuss this. She would be told that if he did it once, he'll do it again, and not to feel safe around him. There are many common instances where domestic violence occurs, either in boyfriend or girlfriends or husbands and wives. Kartoff My initial post says I'm working on moving out. Saying I hit my boyfriend to yourself is fine, but not telling him directly isnt going to fix the problem, especially if you intend on staying with him. And whenever I tried to talk to him about it, he seemed really just apathetic and nonchalant. It could just trigger another outburst and the consequences to you could be really severe. I'm actually in counseling to work on these things and I thought I was getting "better" and then when the opportunity to prove myself arose, I still lost all control and now I think I've lost him again and for good. Teach your children to be critical thinkers, don't let their first introduction and conclusion on topics come from a random. Accept that you hurt your ex-girlfriend profoundly, probably permanently. While it certainly is not excusable to be violent with your significant other in any situation, recognizing what you have done can be the important first step towards resolving the situation. If anger is the case, then it may be time to look into taking anger management classes. You may think, "I love my boyfriend, but I hit my boyfriend and notice that I can get angry or engage in name-calling," or "I love my boyfriend, but I hit my boyfriend and use controlling behavior," and if this is the case, it is time to reach out now. I know in my heart I can change is a great thing to say and to want to mean. Hitting your partner in anger is, by definition, an inappropriate way to express hurt and anger (drunk or not). Ok. You sound like you self-sabotage and self-abuse, along with your partner abuse. Any advice on how I can make it up to him but also stand my ground on him always leaving me? What does that look like, can you describe how he gets? He's smug and continues to state he's not at fault. Physical violence of this type (domestic) is generally a learned behavior, not an innate one. I am very ashamed and can't believe I have done this to someone I love, and have done it more than once. He calmed down a tiny bit, we went inside and talked. The difference in size and strength between her and me is the same as a large man vs me. I don't know if I should be acting like what he did was justified, because I slapped him. You should both make this over for good. My boyfriend got into a heated agrument last night where he accused me of cheating on him with a mutal female friend because durring the night we would often joke about her being my girlfriend etc and because we kept going to the bathroom - manly because we were drinking a lot that night( by drinking i mean - i was thirsty so i kept myself hydrated with water etc, however i did have a beer BUT was not drinking to get drunk nor was i tipsy) and needed to use the bathroom therefore we went . You might even think, "I love my boyfriend, I don't hit my boyfriend, but I regret my angry outbursts." I've decided that I'm going to start as well. What happens if she gets drunk and something similar happens again? I have since apologized for my behavior and regret doing it, and want him back. Staying with him means accepting the ugliness. This guy crossed the line by pushing and slapping you. I feel that way too. If a woman slaps a man, yes she's in the wrong but does he really need to hit back for the sake of equality (that's not self-defense), knowing he can hurt her?? Posts: 1,237. Everytime we get into an argument he leaves me for the night and goes to his parents. This means more than 10 million women and men are experiencing physical violence or sexual abuse in a relationship each year in a given year. And don't get on yourself too badly - yes, you screwed up, but you're taking full responsibility and action steps to change and grow. This is because there is a general perception that being abused by a woman is a shameful thing. Don't risk losing your ex forever, improve your chances to get back together with your ex by using a method so controversial your ex will be unable to resist. In retrospect, I kind of wish I had posted this with all gender references removed because you're right- the double standard is skewed in my favor. This slap doesn't have to be the end of your . The abuse persists, and both parties try to find reasons why it happened and why it is okay to ignore it and move forward. Your long term strategy needs to be to get out of that relationship. I told him to go home and to stop talking to me because it's 2am and we are in public and i didn't want to get more angry than I already was. He ****ed up. I can't imagine ever doing that again (then again, I never thought I would in the first place). It may not display this or other websites correctly. Not only do you have to apologize because you behaved foolishly, but you almost have to start from zero with rebuilding the relationship. Ask your boyfriend if they feel safe having a quick conversation. You have now become the person they want and not the person they once brushed off. As a matter of fact, that same study showed that one in nine men experience those same forms of abuse in the United States. This makes your ex want you back more then ever. You may also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at any time: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Marie was envious of Susan and Jimmy and she told Marie that her boyfriend Jimmy had been sleeping with another person. Very sad, because I genuinely believe you are truly remorseful. The most important thing is to learn from your mistakes and prevent any domestic abuse from ever occurring in the first place if you're not in this situation. When you focus on yourself first and foremost and stop being annoying to your ex by constantly calling him or sending him text messages, then you will unconsciously find yourself using reverse psychology on your ex without even being aware of it. Getting an ex back is difficult if you were dumped. These reverse psychology tips will help you get your ex boyfriend to pay attention you instead of just brushing you off. As black people what would linking with Mexicans do for us? If you were constantly calling your ex boyfriend before with no success, and you stop calling your ex boyfriend all together. Because this happened when you were drinking, perhaps you shouldn't drink anymore. I wish I could reach out to you. The goal for not committing violence again has to be a personal mission. My boyfriend and I got into an argument this past weekend. No more ignoring, no more games; from this point on your life will never be the same. Getting her ex back was primordial to her, but how could she do this without losing face? I don't know the dynamic of your relationship like you do. It shows regret and a desire for change. Welcome to TwoXChromosomes, a subreddit for both serious and silly content, and intended for women's perspectives. Started Friday at 07:51 AM, By I've never slapped back. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Thanks for your input. In the period when you come back together, reinstating trust becomes the most important component. Until at one point, she ended at the hospital. When he comes back the next day, do the two of you then talk about and resolve the problem you were fighting about the night before? Why don't you leave his house? If you can explain/describe the turn of events, it would be helpful. He says that he is just super in control of his emotions. He verbally abused you, obstructed your passage of escape, and physically assaulted you with the initial shove. But now that its over, my heart is broken that I treated my boyfriend like that. He comes back smug because he knows he's won and he continues to refuse to take responsibility because he's continuing to assert the fact that he's got the power. Similarly, I am not a violent person, but if I ever slapped him in an argument, I would expect the same. You've also got your mom to focus on too. Read More >, I hit my boyfriend and I hate myself for it. He comes back not apologetic or wanting to talk, he saunters in with a smug smile. You don't want to miss this - Click Here, ---------------------------------------------------. Immediately, I slapped him. Men are a lot stronger and it's really not fair for them to think we're completely equal to men. I called him a few hours later, and we hung out. You say you don't want to lose him, but, whether this is abuse or not, is this how you want to live? It's amazing to me that he forgives me. I most definitly plan on continuing with counseling. Read More >, This has never happened in our family before. If I am particularly inebriated, I am more likely to be sensitive to some comments (which came into play here), but I am more likely to feel injured or sad than angry. Again and again. Really, I do. There is, however, something of a misconception when it comes to the perception of domestic abuse. Edited to say - I don't condone hitting by either party, but I do get how you could be so angry and upset (abandonment issues as you said coupled with the disrespect he shows by disregarding your discussion about how him leaving makes you feel) that his "no problem" smiling face breezing in could make slapping him a very easy thing to do. !" By then I was also aware of what I had done, and was already bawling. He tends to call me names when we fight, and I've asked him to stop, because it really bothers me. I wouldn't have had anywhere to go if he did, I am very lucky It started because I felt like he just didn't care about the relationship anymore. Men are abused far more than general perception would have you believe. She casually reminded him of all the pleasant times that they had had together. You should not take any action or avoid taking any action without consulting with a qualified mental health professional. no advice for you. 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